Unequally Yoked Friendships by Lois Macdonald
“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put them back together.” ~Author Unknown. I believe this holds true with unequally yoked friendships. Making such a decision opens the doorway to freedom from an unhealthy relationship. Freedom to discover the joy of being connected to someone like-minded. A relationship more precious than silver or gold. While they glisten and sparkle like strings of delicate Swarovski Crystal on the outside, they are anything but fragile or translucent. Molded from priceless grains of resilient and shatter-proof matter overflowing from the incredible depths of the heart. Resulting in a friendship that can stand the test of time. Standing in complete opposition to the superficial followers that feed on beauty and status. Supporting the massive empires of celebrity magazines that count on the failed relationships of high-profile actors. Flaunting the shallow, “show-and-tell-all,” hook-ups that off-stage are completely toxic. Friendship does not covet or feel the need to be seen with the newest and fairest of all.
One of the most challenging obstacles to hurdle when trying to build a healthy friendship is insecurity! Insecure men, women, and teens, tend to gravitate towards other broken people. Gluing them back together seems far less daunting than fixing oneself.
Growing up in a Christian home, I often heard the term “unequally yoked.” Although it is usually referred to as a warning for believers not to marry non-believers, I think all relationships can benefit from its wisdom. “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” Proverbs 13:20. If we are unequally yoked to a friend and are pulling in opposite directions, we will naturally feel irritated and stagnant. 2 Corinthians 6:14 NIV. Explains why. “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” The good news is that it is never too late to experience a relationship with the One who will never fail us. Whose shoulder is available day and night. The Saviour who can satisfy and quench our every need. Whose love has proven to stand the test of time. God, the Father of relationships. He will give us clarity when or if it is time to be unyoked from an unhealthy friendship and empower us to stay yoked when our marriage is going through hard times. [For more answers on this specific battle, I suggest this going to this website. https://www.focusonthefamily.com/family-q-and-a/relationships-and-marriage/living-with-a-spiritually-mixed-marriage.]
Jesus tells us to, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV)
Bottom line, “It’s better to walk alone, than with a crowd going in the wrong direction.” -Jennifer Grant.